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Add to FavoritesBy definition, bisexuals are attracted to both sexes, men and women, and engage in both heterosexual and homosexual behavior. The prefix BI- means two or both, which is appropriate and understandable. However, in the case of bisexuality, it takes no significance nor does it hold any truth - because it is connected to homosexuality. Therefore, bisexuals should be considered homosexuals because that is what they are.
It makes absolutely no sense to separate bisexuality from homosexuality when both terminologies are semi-similar, especially when those of both groups engage in like behaviors. Just because bisexuals take part in fulfilling their hedonistic needs with both sexes does not mean it excuses their homosexual disposition. It simply means that they are using their bisexuality as a way to cover up their nature of homosexuality. Others may argue otherwise, but the facts cannot be denied; e.g., sleeping with the same sex and having attraction for the same sex speak volumes.
Supporters of bisexuality have disputed and raised many arguments on why bisexuals are not homosexuals; one argument they present is this: bisexuals are not homosexuals because some inhabit most of their sexual time with the opposite sex and partake in homosexual behavior occasionally. Indeed, this bisexual practice may be true, but what is not true is their sexual orientation. In reality, if this defense is true, it means that bisexuals can partake in homosexual activities and not be considered such, because their bisexuality overshadows their same-sex relationships. This argument is asinine, laughable - weak at best - and purely nonsense.
Take, for example, a man who has been in a long-term marriage, ten plus years to be exact, and during his marriage he finds sexual pleasure (monthly) in the comfort of a man - when he is tired of a lying down with his wife. Yes, this man typifies a bisexual, but is he not equally gay as well? Should he not be considered a gay man due to his repulsive and continuous behavior? Those who do not think so are ignoring the fact that his behavior mirrors that of a homosexual.
Strangely, some people who live a bisexual and homosexual lifestyle claim they are neither (but rather "straight"), because their heterosexual relationship dominates their homosexuality. This kind of thinking is outrageously irrational and makes no sense. Society has even coined a phrase called bi-curious, a ridiculous term for an individual who generally identifies as a heterosexual but shows interest and/or feels the need to have a relationship with somebody of the same sex. Bi-curious, a drivel and contradictory phrase, represents a concealment of one's true homosexual identity - and was coined to give people the license to continue to deny their homosexuality.
Bisexuals who deny their homosexuality are as laughable as a transgender/transsex ual person claiming to be a woman when he was born a man. It doesn't matter how far a transgender person goes to eliminate his manly features (with breast implants and the whole shebang), he is still a man - even if he goes as far as to get his sex changed via sex reassignment surgery. The reason for such belief is because the core can never be removed. Factually, one who is born a man is a man; one who is born a woman is a woman. Likewise, one who sleeps with the same sex is gay - including bisexuals. There is no in-between, or half-and-half. Gay is gay and straight is straight. Whether people want to admit it or not, it is the truth.
Bisexuals, and their supporters, can continue to argue their gayness until their vocal cords tire, for the facts cannot be denied. Actions take priority over spoken words. In other words, one can say whatever he or she wants, but their actions define who they are. If a bisexual man sleeps with a man, then he is gay. If a bisexual woman sleeps with a woman, then she is a lesbian. It does not matter how often one partakes in homosexuality, nor does it matter if one's heterosexual lifestyle overshadows his/her homosexual lifestyle. One is either gay or straight. This concept is not that hard to grasp. A man and a woman were bred to be with the opposite sex. Thus, if one finds pleasure with the same sex and/or both sexes, then he/she is gay. There is no fifty-fifty when it comes to sexuality; there is no either-or.
People who walk around with brain cells, rather than a water-filled head understand there is no disparity concerning bisexuals and homosexuals. All of these terms (bisexual, bi-curious, transgender, transsexual, etc.) society has coined are simply byproducts and substitutions for the mother title: homosexuality. Bisexuals live a life of paradox and are delusional. Those claiming such title do so to disguise who they really are - homosexuals of the gay and lesbian community: a community that is headed toward damnation due to its unnatural and sinful lifestyle.
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By definition, homosexuals are people who are sexually attracted to people of their own gender — men lust after men, women lust after women. Bisexuals, in contrast, are people who are attracted to BOTH genders. The very definitions of the words supply the answer to this "debate" question.
But wait, you say — some bisexuals are actually homosexuals who are in denial. Society is deeply prejudiced against homosexuals, after all. Political correctness might keep you from voicing your biases against women, blacks, Hispanics, Asians, Wiccans, nudists, Arabs, or members of the ACLU, but by gorry, you can always talk nasty about gay marriage, and how the desire for a loving commitment between two human beings who happen to be the same gender undermines the God-blessed sanctity of Britney Spear's 55-hour marriage to Jason Allen Alexander.
The truth is that bisexuality doesn't seem to be "graven in stone" the way heterosexuality and homosexuality are. Some bisexuals are about 75 percent attracted to the opposite gender; some about 75 percent to their own gender; some of them even change over the course of years. In the mid-1940s, Alfred Kinsey devised a 7-point scale, with 0 being 100 percent heterosexual, 6 being 100 percent homosexual, and 1 through 5 covering the permeations of bisexuality. Kinsey's scale has been criticized over the decades (you have to stretch it to cover bi-permissives, for example — people who are open to the idea of experimental sexuality, but who don't bring the idea up themselves). Nevertheless, it remains useful and widely used.
In 1995, Harvard professor Marjorie Garber published "Vice Versa: Bisexuality and the Eroticism in Everyday Life," a 600-page academic tome in which she argued that most of us would be bisexual if it weren't for "repression, religion, repugnance, [and] denial."
According to psychiatrist Joseph Merlino, senior editor of "Freud at 150," Sigmund Freud believed that all of us go through a bisexual phase before settling down, usually to heterosexuality. Homosexuals, Freud believed, are "people who [are] totally normal in every other regard except in terms of their sexual preference. In fact, he saw many [homosexuals] as having higher intellects, higher aesthetic sensibilities, higher morals; those kinds of things."
Problems may arise not from bisexuals themselves, but from deeply conservative people who believe that sexuality is a sharply defined aspect of character that can never change or evolve, and that any form of sexuality other than heterosexual marriage is sinful. These people usually identify themselves as Christians, but instead of practicing the Christian principles of love, compassion, acceptance, and forgiveness, they indulge themselves with hate, vitriol, exclusion, and worse.
If you're a heterosexual and the thought of "frolicking" with someone of your own gender fills you with repugnance, it may be that that repugnance spills over into your thinking about people who feel attraction rather than repugnance. Would it make you feel better to think about them as anthroposexual, pansexual, omnisexual, or pomosexual (POstMOdern)? How about ambisexuals, people who on Kinsey's scale would range from 2.5 to 3.5?
Whether you think that non-heterosexuals are sinful or disgusting, bear in mind that Sigmund Freud thought that homosexuals are smarter than you are and have better taste and better morals. BETTER morals! Sigmund Freud!
If you think non-heterosexuals are disgusting, remember that no one is asking YOU to join in their fun — and they probably wouldn't be attracted to you in the first place.
If you think they're sinful, remember that the Bible commands you in BOTH testaments to love them as much as you love yourself. Loving someone does NOT involve denying that person rights you enjoy yourself, or could if you wanted to. Loving someone does NOT mean vitriolic tirades against them (ESPECIALLY from the pulpit!), demonstrations, angry letters to the editor, bashing, beating, or murder. If Jesus were preaching his message in today's Los Angeles, he'd be hanging out not just with sex-trade workers and IRS agents, but with street gangs, used-SUV salesmen, illegal immigrants, and all other "dregs" oppressed by society — INCLUDING homosexuals and bisexuals.
There's a wonderful story about a man who went to his rabbi to complain that his son wasn't a good Jew, he didn't keep kosher, he broke commandments right, left, and sideways, he was dating a gentile, he no longer kept the Sabbath, oh, the horror, what should the man do? The rabbi replied, "Love your son more than ever."
You can't FORCE people who are different from you to become like you. You might, for a time, force those who are different to ride in the back of the bus or keep their true feelings "in the closet," but you will never change a left-handed person into a right-handed person — and it's judgmental, cruel, and narrow-minded to try.
You can't spread democracy through war any more than you can spread virginity through rape. And you can't spread truth or righteousness by being hateful. If you think people whose sexuality differs from yours are disgusting, sinful, or both, don't reject them, don't deny or limit their human rights, and don't rant. Remember that they are "totally normal in every other regard except in terms of their sexual preference."
Especially if you follow Jesus, your job is to "love them more than ever" — and let God deal with everything else.
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